Friday, April 20, 2012

Procrastination and Players

I was going to do this post on sexual positions but I've made it pretty far in this challenge without offending too many people, so I figured I would stick with it. Maybe I'll grow some nuggets and do it for S.

I am the queen procrastinator. Not in all things and not nearly so badly as I was pre-Lala. It still pops up and says hey every once in a while though. I mean let's be real, I'm pretty sure today is R and I am just now getting P up. I was doing so good too........

Onwards and Upwards for a bit of fun for myself. I couldn't let "P" pass without throwing an ode to all of the Players. You know when they say "Don't hate the player, hate the game", that is total bullshit. Hate the player people, because these are some of the most insensitive, non-caring suckers on the planet, not forever but definitely for that period. We call that the "Payer Period" it's a phase, and most men/women mature and grow out of it. I am an expert on players. I have seriously met every kind of player out there, I am also not just a member, I am president of the fricking club. Yep, that's right, I am a player. I don't always mean to be, but I'm one of those chicks that gets bored, quick. I don't sleep around, that is a totally different kind of player. I am the type that I know 99% of the time that I am perfectly happy with the way life is, and then I'll get that "I'm lonely" feeling (happens to the best of us). So I meet someone, we talk, date a bit, and before you know it I feel like I'm suffocating. As I said in my earlier post, I don't have time to care about how you feel. I will distance myself, stop texting/calling, and just slowly cut ties. I am the unintentional player. I know it, I avoid situations where this situation may take place, or try to. I don't like hurting people, but I am also not a fake it type either. I won't stay in a situation where I am unhappy, been there done that, didn't even get a t-shirt. Some examples of the "other" players, just in case you haven't run into one, and do in the future.

The Playboy: Generally met in a bar, maybe sober at first, doesn't stay that way usually. Knows everyone in the place (someone who drinks a lot has no place in my life). Hot, and knows it. Rubs "elbows" with all of the waitresses and clientele. Sweet as can be, says all the right things, you want to believe there's a connection. There's not. Trust me, they aren't going to call you, I know, because I don't call people I met in the bar. You want to meet a nice guy, go to the library.

Mr. Suave: This guy is maybe a bit older than "The Playboy" and knows the game better. He is harder to pinpoint. So be careful. He also says all of those things that you have secretly wanted to hear, and you have met someplace (not the bar) that you wouldn't expect to find a date. This can catch you off guard. He will call you for a few weeks, you will damn near be head over heels, and then just like that.....nothing. Some advice, 9 times out of 10 if it seems too good to be true, it probably is.

Those are just two examples, right off the top of my head. Other warning signs that you are dealing with a player: No public outings, can only meet at your place (he either has a GF or is married), it is always late when he calls/texts, and the number one warning sign - you know nothing about him! Ladies, if you stop and think, I mean really think about what you know about this person and you can't even count enough actual facts to tick off on one hand, that's bad.

For you: Have you ever been a player? Even unintentionally, like myself. What other types of players have you come across, and where? Inquiring minds want to know?

This is all my opinion, I realize not all men are players, this post was all I had for "P". :-D


  1. Hi, sorry I don't "play" well, actually - I'm NOT sorry that I don't "play". I would invite you to come and visit my blog, though, you might be amused. :)
    Best regards to you... Ruby aka Grammy

    1. Honestly I don't "play" either. I rarely date, but sometimes you meet people you think could be interesting and then it doesn't work out. I hate hurting people, it makes me feel terrible, so I generally just keep my bahookie out of the dating pool. Thank you for visiting, I will be heading over to your blog shortly. :-D

  2. I operate from honesty being the best policy. It's easier.
    #100 following WooHoo

    1. Oh I am very honest, and straightforward. I am always very open about how I am, I don't believe in being deceptive. I tell them from the get that I am not good at the "serious relationship" stuff, and that I have commitment issues. For some reason most guys view that as a challenge, like they will be "the one" to tame me or something. By unintentional player I just mean that being in a serious relationship isn't an easy thing for me, not that I am dishonest in any way.

      Awesome that you are my #100!! Wish I had a prize to give you! :-D

  3. Well I think that took courage to say those things. IF you are an unintentional player, I don't think you can be grouped as a player. Maybe some issues there, but don't we all have issues? We ALL do. I think a "player" is someone who pre-meditates using someone for their own personal pleasure/gain. I don't see that in you. Yes, we all get lonely and crave companionship, what's wrong with trying? Go into it honestly and lay your cards out on the table. You never know, might be that one person that doesn't feel suffocating.

    1. I could never be the premeditated player, I honestly hate hurting people. I was always the girl that if the relationship didn't seem to be working out I would do things in a way that they could break up with me and feel like they got the last word. I don't like hurting feelings or pride. I am very honest about my "issues", and I am always very honest about the way I need it to be for me to be comfortable. I think I don't try because I do worry about hurting someone. I know that's probably not the best way to operate but I hate how it feels knowing I hurt them.

      I believe that when the time is right I will find that someone that compliments my personality and I compliment theirs, someone who lifts me up instead of makes me feel panicky, but if I don't I'm ok with that too. I am happy with me, and for right now that's enough for me. :-) This really made me think --> "I think a "player" is someone who pre-meditates using someone for their own personal pleasure/gain. I don't see that in you." And made me feel good, you're right if that's the classification I am not a player. I will say again, I am glad I have you in my corner. Thank you for your comment, made me feel good. :)


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